Do you find it difficult to speak your truth to the
one you love? Do you often censor your true feelings so you do not hurt someone
else?
When in the presence of others, we sometimes find it
hard to be authentic and end up hiding our joy, pain, truth, or love. It can be
challenging to be in relationships with others and continue to stay true to
ourselves. Rather than being enmeshed with, or feeling abandoned by, the other.
We may find it hard to let go of wanting to save or fix another and just take
care of our own selves.
The importance
of identifying the roles we play for one another and setting personal
boundaries within relationships. Having intimacy without responsibility for
others is about practicing the art and skill of freedom within the
relationship, and moving toward more love and self-care. When we truly heal and
take care of all of our own issues, we are able to love more deeply.
We have to learn to be in a relationship without
taking responsibility for another person's feelings or pain (or even their
success or joy).
The greatest freedom in the world is being able to be
emotionally honest with others and of course yourself. When you can express
your real feelings, your body is so happy and healthy. If you hold in your real
feelings because you are afraid of someone else's reaction, you are not being
real, or honest or authentic, and you begin to lose parts of yourself.
It is perfectly healthy to care about people feelings
and their pain and sorrow. Also, we all want to be happy and wish for our loved
ones to be happy. The thing is, we are all here on our own journey through
life, in order to evolve our soul. Opportunities arise all the time for people
to discover their deeper powers. Pain, challenges, change, sorrow, loss and
grief are often the things that opens a person to their inner power and
strength. When we shield our loved one from pain or hurt, we are taking away
their opportunity to discover their greatness!
These are few steps to reclaiming your voice.
“To become authentic, we require a thirst for freedom”
– Don Mteo Sol
Determine your role in any situation. Are you enabling
others? Are you allowing people to take advantage of you? Are you asking for
help? Always remember that you are responsible for what is happening to you by
allowing it to happen.
Be aware of your inner critic, the more you use your
voice, the louder the inner critic gets. Fear will kick inn by protecting you
from the unknown and further hurts, simply notice this inner voice, appreciate
them for trying to protect you and simply take the courage to use your voice
“Courage is like a muscle,’ we strengthen it by use – Ruth Gordon “
Take the courage to always share your authentic feelings.
Remember inauthenticity breads inauthenticity. Authenticity breads Authenticity.
Give yourself permission to share exactly how you feel, whatever is going on
with you, give yourself permission to share it. Example, AM SO STRESSED TODAY,
this moment of simple authenticity allows you to receive compassion and empathy
from others
Through practicing these daily mind interventions, you
will become the master of the enlightened relationship. You will move past your
fear of being real, become courageous and use your voice fearlessly
#teenu_impactress
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mcoach
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